New York Times-bestselling author of Fair Play
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About Eve Rodsky
Eve Rodsky realized that simply identifying the issue of unequal labor on the home front wasn’t enough: she needed a solution to this universal problem. Her sanity, identity, career, and marriage depended on it. Armed with data, research, her Harvard Law School training and years of organizational management experience, Rodsky set out to a system for domestic labor that mirrored systems in the most efficient corporate organizations. Her Fair Play creates delineated roles, specific assignments, and explicitly defined expectations that empower both partners to take the lead, stay in their own lane and ultimately—support sustainable relationships that thrive.
In developing the Fair Play system, Eve Rodsky interviewed 500 people of all classes, races, orientations, and genders to define the individual tasks of the average American household and discovered several key trends:
- People often take initiative at work, but wait to be told what to do at home.
- Women continue to do the lioness’s share—two-thirds—of domestic labor in the home, even in two-earner families in which both parents work full-time (according to a 2012 study
- “Fair” doesn’t necessarily mean a 50/50 split—what feels fair depends far more on whether their partners “own” the jobs they do take on from conception to planning to execution.
- Both men and women believe that men’s time is finite (like diamonds), and women’s time is infinite (like ).
Rodsky walks through her solutions to these friction points and discusses how an equal measurement of time in the home can organically benefit a company’s culture. For organizations seeking to become more adaptive, innovative, and fair, every domestic task, both visible and invisible, physical and mental, must be recognized as having a quantifiable time component to prevent inefficiency, inequality, and burnout.
Fair Play was instantly recognized for its life-changing strategy by influential taste-makers and time management experts alike, with Ariana Huffington calling it a “game-changing guide” and Reese Witherspoon declaring, “I’m so impressed with the Fair Play handbook.” The book published to rave reviews by Forbes, Real Simple, GQ, Ms. Magazine, Harper’s Bazaar, and many more publications, quickly becoming a New York Times bestseller.
Rodsky attended the University of Michigan as an undergraduate and earned a law degree from Harvard Law School. She worked in foundation management at J.P. Morgan before founding the Philanthropy Advisory Group to advise high-net-worth families and charitable foundations on best practices for harmonious operations, governance, and disposition of funds. After over a decade of working with hundreds of families, she realized that her expertise in family mediation, strategy, and organizational management could be applied to a problem closer to home. Rodsky was born and raised by a single mom in New York City and now lives in Los Angeles with her husband and their three children.
Fair Play Your Way to Work-Life Integration
Working from home has become all of our new normal, and now more than ever, our homes (and the relationships within them) have become our most important organization. Whether you’re living alone, with roommates or balancing work with homeschooling kids, figuring out how to work & live together 24/7 requires new conversations and systems. Join The New York Times-bestselling author of Fair Play, Eve Rodsky as she shares her sanity-saving methods to create balance in these novel times.
In this virtual event, Rodsky covers:
- Setting up systems in our homes for sharing responsibilities (from childcare to chores)
- How to move to an ownership model to balance the mental load between partners
- Communication tools like how to communicate your “why,” establishing nightly check-ins, and why feedback in the moment is far from productive
- How to discover shared values with your partner
- How to make time for your happiness trio (adult friendships, self-care and unicorn space—the active pursuit of what makes you you) while balancing it all
Eve Rodsky can adapt this talk to address any and all households struggling to adapt to the new normal, including:
- Co-parenting through COVID-19: Co-parents are facing new challenges as we need to double down on establishing shared values and communication tools all while anxiety is running high. Eve Rodsky will share her sanity-saving methods to create fair balance and aligned values in a socially distant world.
- Fair Play for Roommates: Roommates have become our new co-workers, so how do we best set up systems for living and working with people who we’ve never shared an office with? Eve Rodsky will share her system for how to create space, time and balance through clear communication.
Fair Play for HR and Corporate Culture
Women, on average, shoulder two-thirds of domestic responsibilities, regardless of whether they work outside the home. As organizations with gender equity commitments, how can we support women when they’re carrying that mental load? Using her Harvard Law School training and years of organizational management experience, Eve Rodsky has created a life-management system to rebalance the unequal emotional labor and “invisible work.” Through stories and statistics, Rodsky takes us on a journey of what it means for women to fully step into their power in the world and in the workplace by allowing men to fully step into the home. HR and corporate culture leaders will leave armed with practical tools for creating a more equitable, welcoming workplace environment.
Creating More Fairness at Work Starts in the Home
Is an hour holding your child's hand at the pediatrician’s office as valuable as an hour in the boardroom? These are the types of questions Rodsky poses to couples and corporations. What happens when people in leadership roles begin to recognize that time spent “off-screen” in service to our families is deemed as valuable as the time we spend “on-screen” in the office? For organizations seeking to become more adaptive, innovative and fair, every domestic task, both visible and invisible, physical and mental, must be recognized as having a quantifiable time component. Rodsky discusses how an equal measurement of time in the home can organically extend into a company’s culture.
The Life-Changing Magic of Context
Imagine walking into your boss’s office each morning to ask, “What should I be doing today? I’ll just wait here until you tell me what to do.” One of Rodsky's key findings was that people take initiative at work but wait to be told what to do at home. Why is that? “When it comes to the home organization, we demand things on the fly and delegate with no meaningful plan. It’s all control—no context—and men feel nagged and women feel resentful,” says Rodsky. “If we want to invite our partners to become true collaborators on the domestic front, we must create a fair division of labor by clarifying expectations, specific assignments, and individual roles.” Described as a “company handbook” for the home, the Fair Play system sets up both partners to succeed.Categories: Business + Management Speakers, Company Reads Speakers, Current + Social Issues Speakers, Diversity + Inclusion Speakers, Future of Work Speakers, Library + Community Reads Speakers, Motivational + Inspirational Speakers, Parenting Speakers, Productivity and Time Management Speakers, Wellness Speakers, Women's Interest Speakers
Praise for Eve Rodsky
Praise for Fair Play
A hands-on strategy to divide tasks and achieve household harmony.— Real Simple
[An] impressive debut…Couples searching for ways to better manage their families and achieve a balance of domestic work will benefit from Rodsky’s actionable strategy.— Publishers Weekly
Rodsky’s system, which uses task cards divided between partners, is potentially revolutionary and [Fair Play] offers the right combination of venting and commiserating balanced by practical solutions and manageable approaches to tough conversations…poised to become a book-club favorite.— Booklist
Watch out for Eve Rodsky. Reese Witherspoon’s media company, Hello Sunshine, has annointed her as the Marie Kondo of relationships, and we think they might be on to something.— BookPage
A must read for every busy woman out there.— PopSugar‘s Best Books of Fall
Fair Play is a game-changing guide to reclaiming more time in our lives by dividing domestic work in a deceptively simple new way. As Eve Rodsky explains, the key is for each partner to take on the entirety of each task on their to-do list—from conception to planning to execution—to avoid the mental load falling on women and the conflicts that typically arise in a relationship. The Fair Play system of dealing virtual ‘cards’ to share the work it takes to run a household is revolutionary and can help you succeed and truly thrive in all aspects of your life!— Arianna Huffington, Founder & CEO, Thrive Global
There are three ‘people’ in every busy relationship: Person A, Person B, and the system that governs them. When things feel overwhelming, most people point at themselves or their partner to explain it, but more often than not the system itself is the problem. This is brilliantly illustrated in Fair Play, where Eve Rodsky makes the existing system visible and provides a clear path to build a new one that enables readers to focus on what their family values most.— Greg McKeown, author of Essentialism
If your family is struggling to achieve a happy division of household labor, read this book. Fair Play offers practical tools for maximizing peace and minimizing resentment—while freeing up all parties to pursue their best lives.— Laura Vanderkam, author of I Know How She Does It and Juliet’s School of Possibilities
Being a parent is hard; maintaining a happy marriage when children are young is even harder. Rodsky comes to the rescue for these rocky years! Fair Play is what every busy parent needs to shed resentment, move beyond blame, and reconnect with each other. By easing the home burdens and working collaboratively, parents will find the key to a happier marriage and more family joy.— Tovah Klein, PhD, director of the Barnard Center for Toddler Development and author of How Toddlers Thrive
Eve Rodsky tackles the division of housework – a major source of conflict within many marriages—with a refreshingly clear, workable set of solutions that both partners can embrace.— Darby Saxbe, PhD, associate professor of psychology, University of Southern California
Eve Rodsky has created a new language and fresh conversation around the topic of doing it all, stressing out and losing ourselves and relationships in the process. Every page of this book has a take-away, a new idea of approaching a topic that has plagued parents for decades and has needed a plan.— Sheryl Ziegler, MD, author of Mommy Burnout
Fair Play gives us permission to create our own values that introduce equity into our households, creating an equitable shift in domestic workload, and setting examples for our children: that is the revolution. Imagine what could be different about you, your relationships and the world, if we collectively decided to play fair.— Alexis Jemal, JD, LCSW, assistant professor, Silberman School of Social Work, Hunter College
I just want to thank Eve Rodsky, brave woman, for taking on the mental load…of solving the mental load. Fair Play isn’t just a great idea…it’s going to change cultural norms so that women can have equity at home and equality in the workplace. Yes, better division of laundry can help solve the pay gap!— Lauren Brody, author of The Fifth Trimester
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A REESE WITHERSPOON x HELLO SUNSHINE BOOK CLUB PICK
“A hands-on, real talk guide for navigating the hot-button issues that so many families struggle with. I’m so impressed with the Fair Play handbook. Not only did Eve break down every task that a couple is responsible for, but she managed to create a system where dividing those tasks is fun, insightful and gratifying. Her approach is filled with love, humor, wisdom and the idea that if we can work together and acknowledge each other’s strengths and weaknesses, we can build better, stronger, and longer lasting relationships.”–Reese Witherspoon